But, it is possible. Personally, in the past few years, I’ve found myself in may situations where I do feel like it would not only be easier, but necessary to sacrifice what I want. In some cases, I did and overall the results were poor.
Sacrifice is an essential part of being a good human being, but it is the extent of the sacrifice you make that you have to keep in check. You can’t give yourself away and here is how not to:
- Be honest.
- To yourself–If it feels like you are getting pulled in a direction that you are uncomfortable with, vocalize to yourself what feels hard and why. Answer the question “What is it that I want?” This act of labelling what it is that you want quickly strips away all the bullshit.
- To others-Don’t underestimate other people’s ability to empathize. Tell them when you are struggling. You’ll may surprised at how human and understanding other people can be.
- Educate rather than isolate–When other people question what it is that you are doing, don’t see it as a challenge or disapproval (even if it is). Use it as a time to educate them on what it is that you are doing and why. Remember that you have had a lot more time with your thoughts and idea than they have, so they need time to get up to acclimate. It may feel that you need to cut them off or isolate them from your lives, but what if you just took more time and patience with them while still nurturing your bond?
- You can’t be wrong–If you are acting from a place of honesty and being true to what it is that you want, you cannot fail. Your truth and ideas are essential to who you are and can’t be ignored. Trust this deep inner honesty and truth. It won’t steer you wrong. Believe this.
- Focus on the direction rather than the destination-It is much more important that you are letting your honesty and truths move you in the right direction rather than arriving at what you see as the destination. Being on the path of your truth is much more valuable than being at the destination of a lie.
And when all else fails and/or it gets confusing, see point #1. It is never wrong.